By : Sheikh Arshid Ahmad
Children are apple of a man’s eye , the great source of joy and companionship. They make life sweet and after Allah they are the ones on whom he pins his hopes. Their blessings brings Rizq( sustenance), mercy and abundance of reward. But this depends on the children having a good solid upbringing which will make them respectful, kind and a source of happiness.
If a man’s children have the good attributes then they truly be joys of his life as Allah described them in Quran:
“Wealth and sons are allurements (joys) of the life of this world”
For this reason the prophet Mohammad (saw) used to pray for those whom he loved that Allah would grant them wealth and children in abundance.
Ana’s(RA) reported a hadith that Mohammed (saw) made a dua for him and said :
“O’ Allah grant him wealth and children in abundance and bless him” (Bhukhari and Muslim). But if the parent neglect their children’s upbringing the result will be disastrous. Their children will be a source of annoyance, frustration and constant concern not to mention nights of sleep and days of worry. So all parents are responsible for proving their children with a sound Islamic education and upbringing based on noble characteristics.
Especially mother who is called the first school of a child. She understands the psychology of the children and knows how to deal with them using the best and most effective method of morally good dealing.
The mother always is close to the children in all ways and showing every kind of patience even when the children show disobedience and annoyance. She cares and love them and not using abusing and accusing language against them. The primary duty that mother does with their children is to show love, mercy and always affection so they show confidence , positive , optimistic and high levels of self esteem . the mother doesn’t not care the discomforts of her nights when she uses to lay her child on dried part of the bed and herself sleeps on the excretional fluids and some times on faecal matter.
The most important thing that mother should do is to use affection and morally upbringing of her children.
Mother should not neglect any kind of promising and encouraging behaviour towards their children. Rightly said by some one:
” Righteousness comes from Allah but good manners from mother” so mother has to play a great role to instruct the children morally.
Beloved prophet Mohammad (saw) said ” instruct your children to pray when they are seven years of age and hit them when they are ten”
Remember parents don’t teach them to pray but they teach them ethical values by words and actions.
Author belongs to Kuchmullah Tral and has done M.phil. from Mewar University Rajasthan.